#3 – The mere title of Muffy Mead-Ferro’s Confessions of a Slacker Mom immediately struck my fancy. One thing I’ve always known that I would never do as a parent is to sign my kid up for so many teams and lessons and classes that he barely has time to breathe. Not only does that diminish his childhood, but it also keeps my husband and me (and let’s be real here—mostly me) running so much that it can weaken the family system.
Don’t get me wrong—activities and sports are great and can teach important life lessons. And I want my kid to be well-rounded, perhaps to play a sport and maybe even excel at playing a musical instrument or speaking a foreign language. But I see a lot of parents shuttling their children from here to there so often that they’re rarely just sitting down to dinner and being with each other. I get that they’re trying to fulfill their children, but I think a family can miss out on a lot when they over-schedule and attempt to over-achieve. There’s something to be said for a little bit of structure mixed in with a whole lot of unstructured playtime and spontaneity. And Muffy agrees with me!
Plus, we’re lazy people—we figured we’d be somewhat lazy parents as well. It never hurts to plan ahead.
I guess Confessions of a Slacker Mom isn’t necessarily a pregnancy book, and more of a parenting book, but since the over-achievement begins so early these days (earphones on the baby belly so your fetus can listen to classical music!), why not start under-achieving during pregnancy?
In related news, Lady Goo Goo Gaga might not be quite as much of a slacker mom as me, since she thinks it’s wrong that her mom appreciated the art of sleeping in and, thereby, raised self-sufficient kids who could make their own breakfasts. At the age of 2. (I’m kidding–I’m way too much of a control-freak to give my kid the run of the kitchen.) But her take on over-achievement in parenthood in her post on Mothers making lunches…..or not is hilarious.
#2 – On my quest for pregnancy-down-and-dirty-realness, I borrowed Jenny McCarthy’s Belly Laughs: The Naked Truth about Pregnancy and Childbirth from my sister-in-law. It is one of the funniest books I have ever read (and has nothing to do with autism, which is good because she and I walk an entirely different path on that theory). It’s not that it’s incredibly well-written, but it’s a fun, easy read and it’s sincere. It’s like she’s writing a letter, or a memoir, and what could be more real than that? She doesn’t pull any punches, censor herself or try to paint an unrealistic picture of pregnancy. Instead, she talks about all the disgusting things that go with it, while still reveling in the beauty that is pregnancy.
#1 – I enjoyed both of the above-mentioned books tremendously. But then a friend gave me the most fabulous book ever written for any pregnant woman ever: Vicki Iovine’s The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy. It’s real, honest and hilarious. The best part is, it will help you become completely unashamed and unapologetic of the fascinating things your body does during pregnancy and birth—and after (did you think it ended after birth? Because it doesn’t.). It’s empowering and relaxing, all at the same time. I’ve bought it for two friends who became pregnant after J was born and they both enjoyed it as well. I hope they’ll pay it forward one day and hand it down to the next girlfriend, because it is that good.
For another take on the best books to read during pregnancy, check out The Pregnant Chicken.
And don’t forget to check out my post on the 3 best childcare books!
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